Nipped in the Bud, Not in the Butt: How to Use Mediation to Resolve Conflicts over Animals (available on Amazon)

Conflicts over animals are among the toughest to resolve. People form deep emotional bonds with their pets—after all, they’re members of the family—so when a dispute involves animals, people get just as angry as if the clash were over their human children. When they’ve finally had enough, they head to court where the law treats the pet as property—as just a thing.

But there’s a better way: mediation. Whether your conflict is over who gets the cat in a divorce, how to deal with a barking dog, or any other issue, a neutral mediator can bring you and the other person together so you can hear each other out, acknowledge each other’s feelings, and resolve your dispute. Not only can mediation settle the conflict in less time and with less expense than litigation, but it can save and even strengthen relationships.

In Nipped in the Bud, Not in the Butt: How to Use Mediation to Resolve Conflicts over Animals, litigator-turned-mediator Debra Vey Voda-Hamilton introduces her proven techniques for addressing your conflict, working out a mutually satisfactory solution, and ensuring the well-being of the most important party—the beloved pet or animal in need.

Here’s What Others Have To Say About The Book

4.9 out of 5 stars   
32 Customer Reviews On Amazon

Everyone should read this book. It explains the process of mediation from one end to the other using anecdotal situations

Everyone should read this book, especially at this time when hatred is being spewed all over–the internet included! I have never been a fan of “legal remedies”. Actually, I don’t trust lawyers all that much–It goes against my grain that they can one minute be fighting for the plaintiff then the next switch gears and… CONTINUE READING… “Everyone should read this book. It explains the process of mediation from one end to the other using anecdotal situations”

Miki Hope

Best Book For Pets

Debra, I loved your book. What an inspiration to all those who would like an answer to their questions, what happens to my pet if I die? Or, if I get divorced? You have reached the solution for these questions and many more. This book is a must read for anyone who has a pet.… CONTINUE READING… “Best Book For Pets”

Elaine Moorhead

Definitely Worth Reading – by Everybody.

Just finished reading this book and recommend it to everyone. It is concise, informative, relevant and a good read. The tools and information about moderation passed on via anecdotal stories really makes a lot of sense. And this doesn’t only apply to our pets, but all of life everywhere we happen to be.

Lisa Brambilla-Doble

At the heart of Debra’s book are the fur-children who just want to feel safe and loved…

I’m an applied behaviorist and a suburban mom. This book crosses all genres and helps both the layperson and the professional alike to cope in a world obsessed with confrontation and stress. At the heart of Debra’s book are the fur-children who just want to feel safe and loved, which of course only happens when… CONTINUE READING… “At the heart of Debra’s book are the fur-children who just want to feel safe and loved…”

Sarah Hodgson, the Dog Mommy IAABC, Author

Mediation — Your “day in court” better! Where you can speak, listen and resolve conflict in the best interest of your pet.

If you know me, you know I picked up this book since it has to do with our animal friends, but wow! I learned so much that I can apply to teaching high school and everyday life as well. Debra Vey Voda-Hamilton is on the leading edge of what must be a new way of… CONTINUE READING… “Mediation — Your “day in court” better! Where you can speak, listen and resolve conflict in the best interest of your pet.”

DENISE FLECK

Great overview of mediation…

This is a great overview of effective mediation…what it is and what it isn’t! And why it’s so preferable to going to court…as long as it’s done with someone who knows what they’re doing. And this book can guide attorneys and prospective mediators in knowing how it’s done and why it’s the way of the… CONTINUE READING… “Great overview of mediation…”

R.Ferber

A must read for anyone with an animal in your household

I liked how Debra combined her many years in law with her lifetime of experience with dogs/animals to create a very handy guide on animal mediation. Her examples made me realize just how useful her knowledge would be to many people in a variety of situations.

Linda F Switzer

Why consider litigation at all when Mediation is likely to leave both conflicting parties happier in the short and long term?

I have heard Debra speak on these topics before and was very excited to see the information get into print. It is often things that we as veterinarians and animal owners think but cannot find a way to separate emotion from logic. This book gives us great ideas, background, and a thoughtful forward approach through… CONTINUE READING… “Why consider litigation at all when Mediation is likely to leave both conflicting parties happier in the short and long term?”

Karl Jandrey, DVM, MAS, DACVECC

Gives a very deep understanding of that deep bond between animals and the people who love them–a bond that goes back to our ancestors

This book is superb! It should be required reading not only for parting couples with pets, but by every law student, lawyer and family court judge in the country. I’ve been a mediator for almost 40 yrs, now specializing solely in pet custody mediation, and I learned more than I thought I would from Vey Voda-Hamilton’s… CONTINUE READING… “Gives a very deep understanding of that deep bond between animals and the people who love them–a bond that goes back to our ancestors”

Charles Regal, MSW, M.Div

I really enjoyed this book since it opens the knowledge of techniques …

Debra Vey Voda-Hamilton is an attorney and mediator who has a lot of experience in the mediation over animal conflicts. I really enjoyed this book since it open the knowledge of techniques on mediation that are really unique and helpful for everyone. Conflicts over animals and pets are really difficult (they are like children in… CONTINUE READING… “I really enjoyed this book since it opens the knowledge of techniques …”

Ana Paula Medeiros

If you are going thru a custody battle for your pet this book will help you avoid much frustration and come up with a happy medium.

I have used mediation in the past to solve problems to avoid the high cost of litigation, This book explains the pros and cons of mediation vs. court. If you are going thru a custody battle for your pet this book will help you avoid much frustration and come up with a happy medium for… CONTINUE READING… “If you are going thru a custody battle for your pet this book will help you avoid much frustration and come up with a happy medium.”

Roberta Morales

MUST READING for all of us who love our companion animals!!

As a veterinarian of twenty plus years in practice, I have heard many complaints from individuals (clients and others) who have felt mislead and betrayed by my colleagues concerning the treatment of their beloved four-legged family member and often poor outcomes suffered. Though I have never had a conflict with a client over their pet,… CONTINUE READING… “MUST READING for all of us who love our companion animals!!”

A Veterinarian...

Communication is the key. Mediation turns the key.

This book gives the reader a comprehensive review of what mediation is (and why), how it works, and where to go to find a mediator. It’s easy to read with great examples and metaphors. Debra does a great job at describing how it works. I particularly like her “formula” of “Stop, Drop and Roll,” making… CONTINUE READING… “Communication is the key. Mediation turns the key.”

Carolyn Shadle

Gives a very deep understanding of that deep bond between animals and the people who love them…

This book is superb! It should be required reading not only for parting couples with pets but by every law student, lawyer and family court judge in the country. I’ve been a mediator for almost 40 yrs, now specializing solely in pet custody mediation, and I learned more than I thought I would from Vey… CONTINUE READING… “Gives a very deep understanding of that deep bond between animals and the people who love them…”

Charles Regal, MSW, M.Div

I absolutely enjoyed reading this book!

I absolutely enjoyed reading this book and glad I was given the chance to review it. It provided great advice for pet owners, I learned new and really interesting information. It became clear where and how a mediator would be valuable in settling disputes that involve animals and how this could possibly be used in… CONTINUE READING… “I absolutely enjoyed reading this book!”

Stacey Schneller

If you love or work with animals, you must read this…

A comprehensive, yet easy guide to avoiding litigation and achieving success through mediation in disputes over animals. This is a must read for pet owners, veterinarians, trainers, barn managers, grooms (in barn settings) pet groomers, pet rescue and adoption organizations and anyone else who wishes to avoid the pain and pitfalls of court battles over… CONTINUE READING… “If you love or work with animals, you must read this…”

Alexandra

This book is easy to read with good examples

This book is easy to read with good examples, providing a clear understanding of where and how a mediator would be valuable in settling disputes that involve animals. It contains much wisdom that can be used to avoid escalation from minor issues to major ones in the first place.

KEH

Five Stars!

Excellent book !

Carola

Hear it from the Best!

Debra is *the* animal mediator. Learn from the best with this book! Must read for anyone going through an animal dispute, especially one involving companion animals.

Cari B. Rincker

Very interesting, informative, and totally worth reading!

I just finished reading Nipped in the Bud not in the Butt: How to Use Mediation to Resolve Conflicts over Animals and it was extremely interesting. I learned that mediation is better and drastically different than any type of litigation or negotiation. The best thing about mediation is that while you dissolve a conflict between… CONTINUE READING… “Very interesting, informative, and totally worth reading!”

An Amazon Reader

Who Gets Custody Of The Dog? How To Avoid Bitter Disputes Over Your Pets

I wanted to read this book for two reasons. Firstly I know exactly how much a pet can mean to you. I lost my beloved cat Samson a few years ago. Secondly, I spent over 13 years working for various law firms (in marketing, not law) and I was really interested to read how mediation… CONTINUE READING… “Who Gets Custody Of The Dog? How To Avoid Bitter Disputes Over Your Pets”

Linda Hobbis

This book is easy to read with good examples…

This book is easy to read with good examples, providing a clear understanding of where and how a mediator would be valuable in settling disputes that involve animals. It contains much wisdom that can be used to avoid escalation from minor issues to major ones in the first place.

Kathy

Negotiation vs Mediation- it’s a good thing to know about.

Great book, really learned about the difference between negotiation and mediation. If you have issues surrounding your pets, this is a great book on how to handle them.

Erin

A short, useful resource and guide that can help you right away

What makes this book attractive is it’s not a textbook, written for other academics. It’s in conversational language, from the heart, and to the point – 119 pages. Human breakups are often overflowing with emotion. Add the love of a pet to the equation and you have escalating distress, fear, and anger. The book details… CONTINUE READING… “A short, useful resource and guide that can help you right away”

Michael

Debra’s book will save pet owners time, money…

Debra’s book will save pet owners time, money, and aggravation – it’s a must needed resource for every pet owner.

Catherine

Over a year ago I ended a 40 year relationship …

Over a year ago I ended a 40-year relationship. In the process, I took the dog – Diesel. I was lucky my husband did not want Diesel. I really do not know what I would have done it Diesel would have been the focus of a possession struggle. In reading Nipped in the Bud, Not… CONTINUE READING… “Over a year ago I ended a 40 year relationship …”

DeDa Studios

It is much like people and their animals…

Debra hit on the compassion that includes people with animals and people in general. Our animals are a part of our family as our children. She addresses the kindness toward the human spirit. As an educator of young people she hit a chord of parents and their children. It is much like people and their… CONTINUE READING… “It is much like people and their animals…”

Diane Bertoluzzi

A must read for anyone interested in animal welfare and intelligent conflict resolution

As a retired animal cruelty prosecutor and animal protection lawyer, I can tell you that Ms. Voda-Hamilton really knows what she’s talking about and offers a common-sense, hugely effective, non-litigious means of conflict resolution in animal dispute cases of all kinds (and other types of disputes as well). Ms. Voda-Hamilton shares a wealth of wisdom… CONTINUE READING… “A must read for anyone interested in animal welfare and intelligent conflict resolution”

Geoffrey C. Fleck

Tremendous Read…

This book really resonated with me. Debra does an excellent job providing a realistic approach to conflicts over pets. When I opened the book , I immediately noticed Debra’s passion with regards to animal conflict resolution. She does an excellent job explaining the history of mediation, and the significance of mediation in resolving conflict. Being… CONTINUE READING… “Tremendous Read…”

LEX

Thoroughly enjoyed reading it!

Being an animal lover I found this book extremely intriguing. It is enriched with a lot of resourceful information if you find you are in a conflict/situation requiring mediation. It is a practical guide for strategy and understanding of how mediation works. It provides you with great insight in how to approach and resolve conflicts… CONTINUE READING… “Thoroughly enjoyed reading it!”

Doris Humber

No Fighting Over This Dog Bone

Debra is one savvy cookie. In our mutual mastermind she has shared ideas, strategies and techniques to help Pet Parents manage conflicts over their pets. I knew this would be a great book and recieve much support from the Women In The Pet Industry Network (WIPIN) who work with animals and their owners daily. Teaching… CONTINUE READING… “No Fighting Over This Dog Bone”

Judy Helm Wright

I also have written on mediating animal law conflicts…

I also have written on mediating animal law conflicts, although on a much narrower academic-type level, and I can honestly say that Debra Voda-Hamilton has written a very accessible and relevant book that someday should be on the shelf of all local libraries. She explains in an easy-to-grasp manner the bonuses of using mediation to… CONTINUE READING… “I also have written on mediating animal law conflicts…”

Michael Kaiser

This was recommended to me

Not a lawyer, but an owner with occasional pet “issues”. This was recommended to me, and now I have a much better perspective of the parties involved.

Amazon Customer

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