Nipped in the Bud, Not in the Butt: How to Use Mediation to Resolve Conflicts over Animals (available on Amazon)
Conflicts over animals are among the toughest to resolve. People form deep emotional bonds with their pets—after all, they’re members of the family—so when a dispute involves animals, people get just as angry as if the clash were over their human children. When they’ve finally had enough, they head to court where the law treats the pet as property—as just a thing.
But there’s a better way: mediation. Whether your conflict is over who gets the cat in a divorce, how to deal with a barking dog, or any other issue, a neutral mediator can bring you and the other person together so you can hear each other out, acknowledge each other’s feelings, and resolve your dispute. Not only can mediation settle the conflict in less time and with less expense than litigation, but it can save and even strengthen relationships.
In Nipped in the Bud, Not in the Butt: How to Use Mediation to Resolve Conflicts over Animals, litigator-turned-mediator Debra Vey Voda-Hamilton introduces her proven techniques for addressing your conflict, working out a mutually satisfactory solution, and ensuring the well-being of the most important party—the beloved pet or animal in need.
Communication is the key. Mediation turns the key.
This book gives the reader a comprehensive review of what mediation is (and why), how it works, and where to go to find a mediator. It’s easy to read with great examples and metaphors. Debra does a great job at describing how it works. I particularly like her “formula” of “Stop, Drop and Roll,” making… CONTINUE READING… “Communication is the key. Mediation turns the key.”
This book is easy to read with good examples…
This book is easy to read with good examples, providing a clear understanding of where and how a mediator would be valuable in settling disputes that involve animals. It contains much wisdom that can be used to avoid escalation from minor issues to major ones in the first place.
Why consider litigation at all when Mediation is likely to leave both conflicting parties happier in the short and long term?
I have heard Debra speak on these topics before and was very excited to see the information get into print. It is often things that we as veterinarians and animal owners think but cannot find a way to separate emotion from logic. This book gives us great ideas, background, and a thoughtful forward approach through… CONTINUE READING… “Why consider litigation at all when Mediation is likely to leave both conflicting parties happier in the short and long term?”
It is much like people and their animals…
Debra hit on the compassion that includes people with animals and people in general. Our animals are a part of our family as our children. She addresses the kindness toward the human spirit. As an educator of young people she hit a chord of parents and their children. It is much like people and their… CONTINUE READING… “It is much like people and their animals…”
Great overview of mediation…
This is a great overview of effective mediation…what it is and what it isn’t! And why it’s so preferable to going to court…as long as it’s done with someone who knows what they’re doing. And this book can guide attorneys and prospective mediators in knowing how it’s done and why it’s the way of the… CONTINUE READING… “Great overview of mediation…”
Mediation — Your “day in court” better! Where you can speak, listen and resolve conflict in the best interest of your pet.
If you know me, you know I picked up this book since it has to do with our animal friends, but wow! I learned so much that I can apply to teaching high school and everyday life as well. Debra Vey Voda-Hamilton is on the leading edge of what must be a new way of… CONTINUE READING… “Mediation — Your “day in court” better! Where you can speak, listen and resolve conflict in the best interest of your pet.”
If you love or work with animals, you must read this…
A comprehensive, yet easy guide to avoiding litigation and achieving success through mediation in disputes over animals. This is a must read for pet owners, veterinarians, trainers, barn managers, grooms (in barn settings) pet groomers, pet rescue and adoption organizations and anyone else who wishes to avoid the pain and pitfalls of court battles over… CONTINUE READING… “If you love or work with animals, you must read this…”
Excellent book !
MUST READING for all of us who love our companion animals!!
As a veterinarian of twenty plus years in practice, I have heard many complaints from individuals (clients and others) who have felt mislead and betrayed by my colleagues concerning the treatment of their beloved four-legged family member and often poor outcomes suffered. Though I have never had a conflict with a client over their pet,… CONTINUE READING… “MUST READING for all of us who love our companion animals!!”
Negotiation vs Mediation- it’s a good thing to know about.
Great book, really learned about the difference between negotiation and mediation. If you have issues surrounding your pets, this is a great book on how to handle them.
Hear it from the Best!
Debra is *the* animal mediator. Learn from the best with this book! Must read for anyone going through an animal dispute, especially one involving companion animals.
This book really resonated with me. Debra does an excellent job providing a realistic approach to conflicts over pets. When I opened the book , I immediately noticed Debra’s passion with regards to animal conflict resolution. She does an excellent job explaining the history of mediation, and the significance of mediation in resolving conflict. Being… CONTINUE READING… “Tremendous Read…”